{"id":73586,"date":"2024-04-11T16:55:11","date_gmt":"2024-04-11T09:55:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/legendstitch.com\/?p=73586"},"modified":"2024-04-11T16:55:11","modified_gmt":"2024-04-11T09:55:11","slug":"i-desperately-need-alone-time-to-be-a-good-mom-and-thats-ok","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/legendstitch.com\/i-desperately-need-alone-time-to-be-a-good-mom-and-thats-ok\/","title":{"rendered":"I Desperately Need Alone Time To Be A Good Mom And That\u2019s OK"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style='\"font-size:'>For a very long time I didn\u2019t know there was a label for people like me: People that thrive on being alone, who don\u2019t need a lot of socialization, and are much better off having a long conversation with a friend than hanging out in a group of people.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>But when I realized what the word introvert really meant, it all fit together. That was completely and totally me. I hit almost every qualifier even down to the low blood pressure.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>We hate confrontation, we dislike talking on the phone, we are easily overwhelmed, and we are often labeled as \u201cshy\u201d.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>These are all things that we can handle pretty easily because whether we realize it or not, we\u2019re creating our world to fit those needs. We simply say no to parties, sit in the back of the room during a school lecture and don\u2019t answer the phone when it rings. We adjust our life to accommodate our introversion.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Until we have children.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>After those babies are born the personal space and alone time that we thrive on like water suddenly disappears into thin air. In fact, for the first few years most days I had zero minutes of alone time, co-sleeping and nursing through the night.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>It took me quite a while to really understand what was missing and what I needed to be a more patient and loving mother. What I needed to not boil over with anxiety and stress every day.\n<h4><span style='\"font-size:' color:>I needed to be by myself.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>That empty time during the day where you sit and do nothing but veg out on a book or a little TV that some people think are pointless and boring? They are critical to our well-being.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>It\u2019s important to understand yourself and your needs and be willing to accept them; nurture them. <strong>Needing to be away from my kids for a little bit each day does not make me a bad mom. (Even though I thought that for a long time.)\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>So here is how to survive as an introverted mom, it\u2019s very simple: find time to be alone. Everyday.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>No, you won\u2019t always get the perfect afternoon to yourself (sometimes!) but you can find time in other parts of the day. There are two easy ways to do it: wake up early or stay up late.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>If you have kids that wake up before the sun then evenings will be for you. The important thing is that you find a little bit of time for solitude everyday.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Being an introverted mom isn\u2019t easy, but the good thing is it\u2019s totally worth it.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For a very long time I didn\u2019t know there was a label for people like me: People that thrive on being alone, who don\u2019t need a lot of socialization, and are much better off having a long conversation with a friend than hanging out in a group of people. 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