{"id":73222,"date":"2024-04-09T16:23:13","date_gmt":"2024-04-09T09:23:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/legendstitch.com\/?p=73222"},"modified":"2024-04-09T16:23:13","modified_gmt":"2024-04-09T09:23:13","slug":"theres-absolutely-nothing-wrong-with-raising-a-mamas-boy-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/legendstitch.com\/theres-absolutely-nothing-wrong-with-raising-a-mamas-boy-2\/","title":{"rendered":"There\u2019s Absolutely Nothing Wrong with Raising a Mama\u2019s Boy"},"content":{"rendered":"

There\u2019s Absolutely Nothing Wrong with Raising a Mama\u2019s Boy\n
Contrary to popular belief, raising your son to be a mama\u2019s boy is not a bad thing. In fact, you may just be doing him a huge favor! There\u2019s even scientific evidence to prove it. Find out why, along with the benefits that last well beyond childhood.\n
Raising Your Son to Be A Mama\u2019s Boy Is A Good Thing\n
In our society, when someone says, \u201cHe\u2019s such a mama\u2019s boy,\u201d they rarely mean it in a good way. What they\u2019re really saying is he\u2019s weak, spoiled, insecure, or totally dependent on his mother.\n
A simple search of the term brings up articles with \u201csigns\u201d to watch out for to avoid mama\u2019s boys and tips on \u201cdealing\u201d with them if you still end up dating one. The internet has spoken. Mama\u2019s boys are the worst.\n
But this is not true at all. On the contrary, boys that are cared for by and attached to their mothers develop a great sense of security. They become emotionally stronger and more independent as they grow up.\n
Mama\u2019s boys are also less prone to violence and have a deeper respect for women. They\u2019re even healthier both mentally and physically. Unfortunately, what\u2019s true and what society believes to be true are often two totally different things.\n
Society thinks we should feel guilty if we have a mama\u2019s boy. We mothers feel guilty all the time as it is! We don\u2019t need yet another item to add to the list of \u201cthings we\u2019re probably doing totally wrong.\u201d In this case, though, rest assured that you have no reason at all to fret. In fact, science says you\u2019re actually doing the right thing.\n
Science Says Raising Your Son to Be A Mama\u2019s Boy Is A Good Thing\n
There\u2019s actually scientific proof that the close mother-son bond is healthy and beneficial. Research done by the University of Reading shows that the mother-son relationship is key to emotional development. The researchers analyzed 69 different studies with a combined total of nearly 6,000 subjects.\n
They discovered that kids, especially boys, with secure attachments to their mom had fewer behavior issues overall throughout their childhoods. On the flip side, kids who didn\u2019t have a strong bond with their mom ended up with more issues.\n
\u201cMore specifically, our analysis showed that children with insecure attachments to their mothers, particularly boys, had significantly more behavioural problems, even when the behavioural problems were measured years later,\u201d researcher Dr. Fearon explains.\n
If you need more convincing that there\u2019s absolutely nothing wrong with raising a mama\u2019s boy, let\u2019s take a look at a few other studies.\n
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A 2011 Society for Research in Child Development found that boys who have difficult relationships with their moms were more likely to become teen \u201cdelinquents.\u201d\n
A 2012 study dispelled the myth that mama\u2019s boys are somehow \u201cfeminized\u201d and lose their masculinity, which was a ridiculous myth to begin with!\n
A 2010 study by the American Psychological Association found that boys that were close to their moms experienced better physical mental health overall.\n\n
Let\u2019s look at that second study a little closer because it has some interesting results.\n
Mama\u2019s Boys Are Healthier Overall\n
According to the 2010 APA study, boys who were close to their mothers tended to exhibit fewer of the negative stereotypes associated with \u201chyper-masculine\u201d behavior. In other words, they didn\u2019t feel the need to act like \u201ctough guys\u201d all of the time. That actually improves both their physical and mental health in the long run.\n
See, men who were raised hearing things like \u201cbe a man\u201d or \u201cboys don\u2019t cry\u201d are less likely to seek both physical and mental medical help when they really need it, according to the study. Boys who had closer relationships with their moms, on the other hand, didn\u2019t feel the need to fit into a stereotype. They were more emotionally secure overall. In other words, they didn\u2019t feel like their masculinity was in question if they actually asked for help when they needed it.\n
Mama\u2019s boys aren\u2019t as prone to violence\n
Let me be clear up front, I am in no way saying that raising your son to NOT be a mama\u2019s boy will increase his risk of becoming a violent criminal. However, a 2018 research paper presented by the APA shows that, based on several studies, hyper-masculinity does tend to breed violent behavior.\n
One quote from the paper really stands out. \u201cMasculine ideals, such as the restriction of emotional expression and the pressure to conform to expectations of dominance and aggression, may heighten the potential for boys to engage in general acts of violence including, but not limited to, bullying, assault, and\/or physical and verbal aggression.\u201d\n
We\u2019ve already learned that \u201cmama\u2019s boys\u201d tend to be more emotionally secure, so it\u2019s not a leap to assume that they are less likely to engage in violent behavior.\n
Mama\u2019s Boy Myths (and How to Shut Them Down)\n
If you\u2019ve ever read through any of those \u201cdon\u2019t date a mama\u2019s boy\u201d articles, you\u2019ve probably come across at least a few common \u201creasons\u201d that are nothing more than outdated myths. Let\u2019s take a look at the most popular along with arguments against them.\n
Myth #1: He\u2019ll never be truly independent\n
There\u2019s an assumption that we\u2019re teaching our sons that they can\u2019t get by without us by \u201cbabying\u201d them and doing everything for them. In fact, the opposite is true. Mama\u2019s boys are actually more independent in the long run because they\u2019ve learned skills not just from their fathers, but from their mothers as well.\n
For example, many adult men of our generation actually know how to cook and sew, things that used to be called \u201cwomen\u2019s work\u201d by our grandparents\u2019 generation. Mama\u2019s boys aren\u2019t just more independent, but they\u2019re helping break through gender norms.\n
Myth #2: He\u2019ll think his mom is always right and will never question her\n
What a ridiculous myth, right? People assume that we moms are somehow instilling this belief in our sons that we can do no wrong, and that they have to do everything our way. That couldn\u2019t be farther from the truth, at least in our home.\n
I raise my kids- both my son and daughter- to think for themselves. Questions are encouraged, and if my kids have a better solution or come up with a different way of doing things, I\u2019m all ears. I also encourage them to listen to other people\u2019s ideas and to consider trying new ways to do things.\n
Myth #3: He\u2019ll tell mom everything and talk to her too much\n
One article about dating mama\u2019s boys claimed that mama\u2019s boys will \u201cspend more time texting his mom than you.\u201d First, if my son\u2019s future girlfriends ever feel like he\u2019s not texting them enough, I hope that they\u2019d be confident enough to discuss it with him rather than just arbitrability blaming me. We all want our kids to be with people who challenge them and complete them.\n
Second, there is absolutely nothing wrong with raising a child who is comfortable talking to you about anything and everything. I want my kids to feel like there are no off-limit topics. That way, if they\u2019re ever in trouble, they\u2019ll know that I\u2019m here for them.\n
Do I expect my son to tell me everything when he\u2019s all grown up and out on his own? Of course not! I just want him to know that he has that option.\n
Myth #4 Mama\u2019s boy lack \u201cdrive\u201d\n
Another one that drives me nuts is the assumption that raising a mama\u2019s boy means handing everything to your son on a silver platter. There\u2019s a HUGE difference between a mama\u2019s boy and a \u201cspoiled\u201d child. I\u2019ve known plenty of women who were handed everything they wanted by their parents, too, so it\u2019s not just \u201cmama\u2019s boys.\u201d\n
I don\u2019t spoil my children. I raise both my son and daughter to know the value of hard work. That way, when they succeed, they\u2019ll know it\u2019s because of their efforts and not mine. I support, encourage, and cheer them on, but I don\u2019t step in and hand them their victories.\n
Myth #5: Mama\u2019s boys are \u201cweak\u201d\n
Out of all of the myths about mama\u2019s boys, this one bothers me the most because it equates being a compassionate human being who generally cares about others and who isn\u2019t afraid to show emotion with \u201cweakness\u201d or \u201csissiness.\u201d In fact, the opposite is true, in my opinion.\n
It takes a very strong man to throw off generations of conditioning and feel comfortable expressing himself. That so-called \u201cweakness\u201d should be something that every parent strives to instill in all of their children. We don\u2019t want to raise kids who are so scared of crying that they bottle everything up until they implode.\n
We want both our sons and daughters to feel like they can be themselves and share their feelings.\n
Raising a Mama\u2019s Boy is Totally Okay!\n
Mothers of both sons and daughters should worry less about getting caught up in \u201cperception\u201d and what other people think. Boys and girls have equal needs and have equal feelings. Why are we still even talking about how we\u2019re \u201csupposed\u201d to raise boys?\n
I am raising my son to be a \u201cmama\u2019s boy\u201d, and I am very proud of it. I want to make sure he knows it is okay to cry, have feelings, and show his emotional side.\n
Attachment gives children a sense of security. It makes them feel protected and accepted unconditionally. The bond made by mothers and their children has very unique characteristics and is extremely important for all human beings.\n
So, are you raising your son to be a mama\u2019s boy?\n
If you suspect your son is a mama\u2019s boy, be thankful. He will most likely grow up happier, healthier, and more emotionally secure. Being a mama\u2019s boy is a good thing!\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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