{"id":72621,"date":"2024-04-05T16:37:23","date_gmt":"2024-04-05T09:37:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/legendstitch.com\/?p=72621"},"modified":"2024-04-05T16:37:23","modified_gmt":"2024-04-05T09:37:23","slug":"mama-because-you-are-their-safe-place","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/legendstitch.com\/mama-because-you-are-their-safe-place\/","title":{"rendered":"Mama, Because You Are Their Safe Place"},"content":{"rendered":"

I remember hearing it for the first time. One of my kiddos was 5 or 6 years old when I left them with a friend for a bit. When I returned I heard this, \u201cShe was so great! Absolutely precious. No problem at all.\u201d\n

Maybe at your house, lady! Meanwhile, you know this child will turn into a Disney villain before walking in the front door back at home.\n

Why Your Kids Act Better When You\u2019re Not Around\n
As a mom, it always makes me feel proud to know my kids behave respectfully when I\u2019m not around. It\u2019s like a validation of sorts. It makes me feel like I\u2019m a good parent because my kids know how to act when I\u2019m not hovering over them, reminding them to say please and thank you.\n
But, once those precious, well-behaved children are back with me, they are, and I say this with love, nut jobs.\n
I wanted to understand this problem, so I began to research it. Here\u2019s what I learned. It\u2019s actually very simple.\n
You are their safe place to land.\n
That\u2019s it in a nutshell. That one sentence tells you everything you need to know.\n
Think about it this way. When you are at a friend\u2019s house you almost definitely act \u201cbetter\u201d than at home. You are gracious and patient and kind.\n
It\u2019s only when you get home that you rip off your bra, put on your ugly sweatpants, and yell at your kids for leaving their socks in those gross little sock balls all over the floor.\n
You\u2019re safe in your own home to be who you are. Your family loves you, even in your ugliest sweats. They\u2019ll forgive you when you mess up and they know you\u2019ll do the same.\n
Why would your kids behave any differently? Sure, they are wilder and grumpier and more obstinate with you than they would ever dream of behaving around almost anyone else.\n
At home, they know that whatever whackadoo thing they do, no matter how awful, mom will still love them. Even if she yells a little. Even if she threatens everything short of forcing them to live outside among the wolves.\n
I promise you, they know you\u2019re definitely not going to throw them out in the cold. You\u2019re their safe place.\n
Bobby\u2019s mom, however, has made no such promise. Who knows what will happen when SHE has to pick up the jelly beans your precious child spilled all over her floor? Your kids are smart enough to know they\u2019d better not take any chances. Better pick those up with a smile.\n
You\u2019re Trusted. You\u2019re Loved.\n
From now on, maybe you can feel a little bit blessed that your kids aren\u2019t as perfect at home as they are at school, at a friend\u2019s house, or even with grandparents. Thank goodness that on some level, they understand they don\u2019t always have to be \u201con.\u201d\n
Can you imagine? Being perfect when you\u2019re a guest in someone else\u2019s home, only to leave and still have to be perfect? Exhausting!\n
So in short, I hope you\u2019ll try and think of this behavior as an \u201cI love you, momma.\u201d You\u2019re doing a good job. Take the win, even though it may not look like a win at the moment.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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