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\nAm I wrong for being upset that my 76-year-old father spent all his saving on a luxury trip instead of thinking about family?\n
The day my father announced his plans, I felt my stomach drop.\n
\u201cA cruise?\u201d I repeated, hoping I had misheard.\n
He nodded, a rare, boyish excitement in his eyes. \u201cNot just any cruise\u2014around the world. It\u2019s been a dream of mine for years.\u201d\n
I stared at him in disbelief. \u201cWith what money?\u201d\n
He hesitated, then admitted, \u201cWith my savings.\u201d\n
I felt my chest tighten. \u201cYour entire savings?\u201d\n
He had the decency to look sheepish, but his conviction didn\u2019t waver. \u201cMost of it, yes. I figured\u2026 what am I saving for now?\u201d\n
I couldn\u2019t believe what I was hearing. This was the man who had spent his life pinching pennies, making sure every dollar was spent wisely, always planning for the future. And now, in one swoop, he was throwing it all away for some extravagant vacation?\n
\u201cWhat happens when you run out of money?\u201d I demanded. \u201cWhat if you need medical care? What if you need help? You know that responsibility will fall on me, right?\u201d\n
His expression softened. \u201cI\u2019m not asking you for anything, son. I just want to do this while I still can.\u201d\n
I clenched my jaw. \u201cAnd what about us? What about your grandson? He really needs a new iPad for school. And in a few years, he\u2019ll need a car. You could\u2019ve helped set him up for the future.\u201d\n
Dad sighed. \u201cI\u2019ve spent my whole life setting up others. Just this once, I want to do something for me.\u201d\n
I scoffed. \u201cThat\u2019s selfish.\u201d\n
Something flickered in his eyes, hurt but steady. \u201cMaybe it is. But I think I\u2019ve earned it.\u201d\n
And with that, he left.\n
The weeks after he boarded the cruise were tense.\n
I couldn\u2019t stop thinking about how irresponsible he was being. What if he fell sick in a foreign country? What if he needed help? Would I have to dig into my own savings to support him after he burned through his?\n
I vented to my wife, but she just sighed. \u201cMaybe he deserves this.\u201d\n
\u201cWhat?\u201d I snapped.\n
She gave me a pointed look. \u201cYour father worked his whole life, barely took vacations, never splurged on himself. Maybe he\u2019s finally allowing himself to live.\u201d\n
I groaned. \u201cAt our expense.\u201d\n
She shook her head. \u201cAt his expense. It was his money, wasn\u2019t it?\u201d\n
That shut me up.\n
Then the postcards started arriving.\n
At first, I ignored them.\n
One from Italy. \u201cTasted the best pasta of my life today! I think I actually heard angels sing. You have to come here someday.\u201d\n
One from Greece. \u201cStanding in the ruins of Athens. Can\u2019t believe I\u2019m actually here. It\u2019s overwhelming, in the best way.\u201d\n
One from Japan. \u201cCherry blossoms are in full bloom. Wish I could bottle up this moment and send it to you.\u201d\n
Each postcard was brimming with joy, with wonder. He sounded\u2026 alive.\n
But I wasn\u2019t ready to let go of my anger. Every time I saw my son struggle with his slow, outdated iPad, I felt my frustration return.\n
He could\u2019ve helped us. He could\u2019ve thought about us.\n
Then, one night, the phone rang.
\n\n
\u201cHello?\u201d I answered stiffly.\n
\u201cSon.\u201d His voice was warm but hesitant, as if unsure of his place in my life anymore. \u201cI just wanted to say\u2026 I\u2019m sorry if I hurt you.\u201d\n
I swallowed hard, not ready to back down. \u201cIt\u2019s not about me.\u201d\n
He chuckled lightly. \u201cIsn\u2019t it?\u201d\n
Silence stretched between us.\n
\u201cI know you think I was reckless,\u201d he continued. \u201cAnd maybe I was. But I needed this.\u201d\n
I exhaled sharply. \u201cWhy?\u201d\n
He paused before answering. \u201cBecause I spent so long living for everyone else, I forgot how to live for me.\u201d\n
His words settled into my chest like a weight.\n
\u201cI know I don\u2019t have decades left,\u201d he admitted, his voice softer now. \u201cI don\u2019t want to leave this world with nothing but regret. I don\u2019t want to spend my last years watching the world from a window, wishing I had seen it up close.\u201d\n
Something in my resolve cracked.\n
\u201cI\u2019m not asking you to understand,\u201d he said. \u201cI just hope, one day, you will.\u201d\n
I didn\u2019t know what to say.\n
But for the first time, I listened.\n
A Different Kind of Legacy
\nWhen Dad finally returned months later, I barely recognized him.\n
Not physically\u2014he was still the same man, though a bit tanner, his wrinkles deepened by the sun. But there was a lightness in him, a peace I hadn\u2019t seen before.\n
He didn\u2019t just bring back souvenirs. He brought back stories.\n
He told my son about the time he got lost in Tokyo and a kind stranger helped him find his way. He showed us pictures of the breathtaking cliffs in Norway, the ancient temples in Cambodia, the cobblestone streets of Spain.\n
And as he talked, I saw something shift in my son\u2019s eyes.\n
Wonder.\n
I had been so focused on what my father didn\u2019t leave us that I hadn\u2019t realized what he had.\n
He hadn\u2019t spent his money frivolously.\n
He had spent it living.\n
And in doing so, he had given us something far more valuable than an iPad or a car.\n
He had given us a reason to dream.\n
Years later, when my father was gone, I found his old postcards tucked away in a box.\n
I held them in my hands, rereading each one, feeling the weight of his words, the joy he had chosen for himself.\n
And then I smiled.\n
Because when my own son turned eighteen, I didn\u2019t buy him a car.\n
I bought him a plane ticket.\n
And in that moment, I finally understood.\n
My father didn\u2019t just take a trip.\n
He set us free.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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